WHAT ARE YOUR CORE VALUES?

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Hi there! Thank you for taking the time to read this. In October, Monarch decided to refine our core values. Our previous list of values was very admirable and true. However, they felt a little like something I put together because I knew we needed a list of words to anchor our mission. I probably read a business article talking about the importance of mission statements and other business phrasings.

12 years later I approached refining these values differently. I asked a few staff members to spend some time with me coming up with a theme for 2021. Themes are good because they drive marketing, conversations and unite a group of people. Think of a themed conference or party. The theme gives you a broad-brush idea of what to expect when you get there.

As we began to discuss theme ideas, one staff member said let’s take a theme from our core values. As we read through the dry list of words it became obvious that we needed to make these values more personal. I asked the team gathered to tell me what they see every day at Monarch.  Core values are who you are not who you want to be. That being said, we identified the following:

ROOTED IN RELATIONSHIPS

CULTIVATING COLLABORATION

GROWTH WITH PURPOSE

As we cemented these values it dawned on me that one cannot Grow without Collaboration and one can’t Collaborate without Relationships. These values work in business and in life. If you are frustrated or feel stuck it’s most likely because you are not growing. The lack of growth is going to be tied to relationship issues or lack of depth in the roots.

As your Chief Encouragement Officer, I challenge everyone to take inventory of your relationships. If your relationships are healthy, expect a big year that will include exciting collaboration and healthy growth.

Merry Christmas,

Matt Davenport

C.E.O.

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GET SMALL TO GET BIG

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This month is always amazing and exhausting. In addition to the holidays, we have two daughters that have December birthdays. By the time Santa gets here I feel like an ATM machine buried in some smoke-filled casino.  A few years ago I made a conscious effort to try and fight back the Grinchy tendencies by reducing December commitments and focusing on what’s important.

Most recently, my oldest daughter Madison turned sixteen. Madison is the type of kid that makes you feel like a good parent. She is smart, beautiful, and grounded. So, what does a smart, beautiful, and grounded young woman want to do for her birthday? Go stargazing of course. At her behest, my wife, Madison, and her three best friends loaded up the RV and headed to Joshua tree.

Due to Covid restrictions, we were forced to stay at a private campground in 29 palms. This extremely remote location was nothing but sand and stars. The new moon laid the black sky bare for us to see. This particular day was the Geminid meteor shower which was gracing us with nearly 100 shooting stars an hour.  

There we were sitting with our lawn chairs leaned all the way back in the middle of the desert. We piled up blankets, crammed hand warmers in our pockets, and simply stared off into the great unknown. As the minutes passed, my mind began to move away from analytical and into observation. Stars seem to be falling on top of us and I simply felt small. Better said, I felt like a should feel.  

Often times, we think we are bigger than we are. We think if this goes right or if this goes wrong life is over. Yet, there I was with my wife, my oldest child, and her best friends realizing that I am small. I require help, I don’t control every outcome.

Getting small means to see yourself rightly. Nature always does that to me. I feel like I’m in control until I get into the ocean. I feel strong until I walk amongst trees that have survived the past 200 years. I feel noteworthy until I stare up into the sky. Anytime I stop thinking about myself, I become more creative and think bigger.

Your Chief Encouragement Officer hasn’t figured anything out. I’m on a journey just like you. My encouragement this week is simple. If you feel Big, Get Small. If you feel Small, Think Big.

Star Gaze,

Matt Davenport

C.E.O.

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ARE YOU A LEADER?

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The simple answer is yes. We are all leaders in our own spheres. Leadership happens in the home, at work, with kids, at the car wash, at Costco, on the freeway, you name it, leadership is required in every aspect of your day. You are probably disqualifying yourself as you read this. Well… I’m not a leader like this person or all I do is this or that. Stop it!

There are 2 types of leaders, good leaders and bad leaders. A good leader is able to pull something out of a person that others never thought possible. A good leader sees value in others and does not seek recognition in the process. A good leader is a person that is willing to speak hard truths to someone who is humble enough to hear it.

A good leader goes out ahead of those they are leading and looks for landmines. A good leader does what they are asking you to do. A good leader takes ownership of the mistakes of those they are leading. A good leader never blames others. A good leader is always learning. A good leader is a hard worker. A good leader is persistent. A good leader elevates those around them. A good leader is accountable to their purpose. A good leader reproduces other good leaders.

A bad leader does the exact opposite of all those listed above.

You are a leader. You may not be a perfect leader but if you listen, humble yourself and acknowledge that you are held to a higher standard than others, you will grow into a leader that you would want to follow.

Lead,

Matt Davenport

C.E.O.

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IT’S GO TIME!

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Procrastination is one of the worst and hardest habits to shake. As a kid, procrastination was an easy way to escape homework for a few hours to make room for something far more fun. As we enter our teen years, delaying action was typically in the form of job applications, summer school or any mundane yet required activity. As an adult, these seemingly harmless synonyms can be replaced with one word- postponement.

Meaningless late 5th grade homework assignments have turned into postponing your dreams. Grown-ups are great with manipulating language to make us feel better about our appetite for inaction. In October of every year we boldly proclaim, I’m going to wait until the new year to break or start a habit. What is that? We would never let our kids get away with this sort of self-destructive postponement.

Intentionally delaying a decision can be strategic but not acting on a decision once made creates anxiety and leads to low self-esteem.  We were made with a mind that gives us the opportunity to dream and decide what we want to be when we grow up. That same mind is powerful and understands the work associated with those dreams. Often times the raging debate going on in our head resembles the bloviating commentators on every major news network. The reality is that you have 2 or 3 things that you really want to accomplish. Not only do you want to do them, but you can do them. The only thing stopping you is the hard work and self-discipline required between here and there.

As you Chief Encouragement Officer, I would like you to remember who you are. You have accomplished much but there is more to be had. You have dreams and goals that are balled up in the desk of your mind. Reach in there and pull them out one by one. It’s been said that all good ideas devolve into hard work. This is true but the hard work between us and our dreams is what we were made for.

Oh the places you’ll go,

Matt Davenport

C.E.O.

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TREE OF LIFE

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Ancient wisdom tells us that Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is like a tree of life. We are 59 days from 2021 and this year has made many of us feel heartsick. We have hoped for health and prosperity yet many of our neighbors and fellow citizens have experienced the opposite.

We are on the precipice of a new chapter in our history. This chapter will be new for you personally and for our nation historically. As I write this, I feel hope bubbling up once again. The hope that I have is not based on change but rather on the fact that the things that matter have remained.

The past 9 months have helped us realize the need for personal connection in the midst of the “I” revolution. iPhone, iPad, I this and I that. The hope that has ultimately been differed is the one that yearns for deep human connection. Zoom rooms have been a real gift during this time but they fall far short of the family rooms our souls most deeply require.

The most difficult part of differed hope is anticipating if it will be met. The moment when heart sickness is met with hope and fulfillment is usually when we let go.  Letting go takes intentionality. When we let go, we often find ourselves sitting under a tree of life with our family and friends.

Stay Rooted,

Matt Davenport

C.E.O.

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TO DO LIST

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Did you ever notice that your to-do list is all about you? When is the last time you made a to-list that involved other people? It sounds strange but the discipline of writing down a list of ways you are going to bless somebody is quite refreshing. Even more exhilarating is to cross off the list as your week goes by. Here are a few ideas:

-Buy a cup of coffee for the person in line behind you

-Compliment a stranger

-Write down what you are grateful for

-Hold the door for somebody

-Leave a big tip

-Call someone you have been meaning to

-Say thank you

-Listen with all of your might

-Don’t have an agenda when meeting with somebody

-Turn your phone off when you are with people

-Give blood

-Drop off clothes at Goodwill

-Bring a friend dinner

-Have grace for those closest to you

-Be slow to anger while driving

-Count your blessings

-Smile

-Call your Mom

-Be nice

-Offer to pick up groceries for a neighbor

As you Chief Encouragement Officer, I want to offer you a bit of respite from yourself. Thinking about others is one thing, doing things for others is quite another. Let’s go out this week with a mission to make somebody else’s life better!

It’s not about you,

Matt Davenport

C.E.O.

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PTGO

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Post Traumatic Growth Opportunity. This phrase came to my mind when listening to a recent Simon Sinek podcast discussing how people respond to challenges. We face trauma in various ways throughout our days and weeks. When these dramatic events occur, we get to decide whether these events will serve us or damage us down the road. Quite astonishing when we say it like that. Situation arises, goes sideways, we choose which bucket to place it in- future building or future baggage.

I began my journey towards optimism 12 years ago. The catalyst was desperation. When you are starting a business, any negative thoughts have to be immediately wrapped up and thrown out the window. Why? Because negative thoughts lead to negative actions and negative actions lead to negative results. Plus, being positive costs the same as being negative. So why not flip the script and say this is going to be great.

With a PTGO mindset, almost anything life throws at you feels like an opportunity to learn. We need to recategorize difficult times from failure to data collection. I have been collecting data my whole life and that data is now protecting me from potholes down the road. The smartest PTGO mind setters hang around with folks that have already blown out a few tires and are eager to share their data points with you.

As your Chief Encouragement Officer, I would like to challenge the readers this week to do something nice for a stranger. This simple act of benevolence will set your week off on the right trajectory. One thing is for sure when we think less about ourselves and more about others, life seems to add up.

Pick your bucket wisely,

Matt Davenport

C.E.O.

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CONTROL FREAK

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We are 10 months into a year that will forever change the nation, the world and your life. The next 10 months will be different. That’s just it, every day is different. We can’t hold onto things of the past and effectively move into the future. It would be like holding onto the bumpers of 2 cars slowing pulling the opposite direction. Here is my advice, let go of both bumpers and simply give yourself the opportunity to enjoy today.

Control is at the center of most of our stress. We are stressed about the outcome of the election. What if your candidate loses? What if this happens, what if that happens? What will the economy do? What will the world look like for my kids? All of these concerns are to not be taken lightly but they are to be held loosely. If you are honest with yourself, you will admit that the greatest things that have ever happened to you were outside of your control.

We often have great things happen to us that were unplanned and totally undeserved. Instead of continuing to walk and enjoy what we received we put that blessing into a chokehold by managing the fun right out it. STOP IT. Attempting to control the outcome of every situation is exhausting and counterproductive. Not only does it not work but it makes being around you miserable. Here are a few tips for intentionally releasing control:

-Admit that you are not any good at control once you have it.

-Write down all the good events in your life that came outside of your planning

-Be quick to be generous

-Ask someone you trust to remind you when you are beginning to micromanage

-Get over yourself

In order to get over yourself entirely, you must accurately see yourself. This tall task cannot be done on an island and requires a community of good friends. As your Chief Encouragement Officer, I challenge you to take inventory of your stress and see how much of it is related to control. You may want to ask yourself this tough question if 2020 hasn’t beaten the control freak out of me, what will?

CHILL OUT,

Matt Davenport

C.E.O.

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