TO DO LIST

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Did you ever notice that your to-do list is all about you? When is the last time you made a to-list that involved other people? It sounds strange but the discipline of writing down a list of ways you are going to bless somebody is quite refreshing. Even more exhilarating is to cross off the list as your week goes by. Here are a few ideas:

-Buy a cup of coffee for the person in line behind you

-Compliment a stranger

-Write down what you are grateful for

-Hold the door for somebody

-Leave a big tip

-Call someone you have been meaning to

-Say thank you

-Listen with all of your might

-Don’t have an agenda when meeting with somebody

-Turn your phone off when you are with people

-Give blood

-Drop off clothes at Goodwill

-Bring a friend dinner

-Have grace for those closest to you

-Be slow to anger while driving

-Count your blessings

-Smile

-Call your Mom

-Be nice

-Offer to pick up groceries for a neighbor

As you Chief Encouragement Officer, I want to offer you a bit of respite from yourself. Thinking about others is one thing, doing things for others is quite another. Let’s go out this week with a mission to make somebody else’s life better!

It’s not about you,

Matt Davenport

C.E.O.

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PTGO

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Post Traumatic Growth Opportunity. This phrase came to my mind when listening to a recent Simon Sinek podcast discussing how people respond to challenges. We face trauma in various ways throughout our days and weeks. When these dramatic events occur, we get to decide whether these events will serve us or damage us down the road. Quite astonishing when we say it like that. Situation arises, goes sideways, we choose which bucket to place it in- future building or future baggage.

I began my journey towards optimism 12 years ago. The catalyst was desperation. When you are starting a business, any negative thoughts have to be immediately wrapped up and thrown out the window. Why? Because negative thoughts lead to negative actions and negative actions lead to negative results. Plus, being positive costs the same as being negative. So why not flip the script and say this is going to be great.

With a PTGO mindset, almost anything life throws at you feels like an opportunity to learn. We need to recategorize difficult times from failure to data collection. I have been collecting data my whole life and that data is now protecting me from potholes down the road. The smartest PTGO mind setters hang around with folks that have already blown out a few tires and are eager to share their data points with you.

As your Chief Encouragement Officer, I would like to challenge the readers this week to do something nice for a stranger. This simple act of benevolence will set your week off on the right trajectory. One thing is for sure when we think less about ourselves and more about others, life seems to add up.

Pick your bucket wisely,

Matt Davenport

C.E.O.

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CONTROL FREAK

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We are 10 months into a year that will forever change the nation, the world and your life. The next 10 months will be different. That’s just it, every day is different. We can’t hold onto things of the past and effectively move into the future. It would be like holding onto the bumpers of 2 cars slowing pulling the opposite direction. Here is my advice, let go of both bumpers and simply give yourself the opportunity to enjoy today.

Control is at the center of most of our stress. We are stressed about the outcome of the election. What if your candidate loses? What if this happens, what if that happens? What will the economy do? What will the world look like for my kids? All of these concerns are to not be taken lightly but they are to be held loosely. If you are honest with yourself, you will admit that the greatest things that have ever happened to you were outside of your control.

We often have great things happen to us that were unplanned and totally undeserved. Instead of continuing to walk and enjoy what we received we put that blessing into a chokehold by managing the fun right out it. STOP IT. Attempting to control the outcome of every situation is exhausting and counterproductive. Not only does it not work but it makes being around you miserable. Here are a few tips for intentionally releasing control:

-Admit that you are not any good at control once you have it.

-Write down all the good events in your life that came outside of your planning

-Be quick to be generous

-Ask someone you trust to remind you when you are beginning to micromanage

-Get over yourself

In order to get over yourself entirely, you must accurately see yourself. This tall task cannot be done on an island and requires a community of good friends. As your Chief Encouragement Officer, I challenge you to take inventory of your stress and see how much of it is related to control. You may want to ask yourself this tough question if 2020 hasn’t beaten the control freak out of me, what will?

CHILL OUT,

Matt Davenport

C.E.O.

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ICEBERG AHEAD

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What happens to you when you identify an obstacle in your passageway. For most people, the vulnerability light bulb on the dashboard in their head goes off which is immediately followed by an attempt to change direction. This change in direction is intended to save us from sure disaster and give us the opportunity to steer the ship back to its original course. Needless to say, we make a double effort to make these changes smooth, subtle, and hardly noticeable to those traveling with us.  

Recently, I was riding shotgun with my 15-year-old daughter as she works to accumulate enough hours to become a valid driver. We were driving down a reasonably trafficked road in a suburb near our house in Southern California. She elected to change lanes which at the time felt like we were avoiding a deer. The sudden change in direction reminded me that often in life we are required to pivot rather than turn on our blinker, check the mirrors and comfortably float to the neighboring lane.

Pivoting requires a fixed point. Think of a protractor, half of your body must be anchored and the other half agile. We create plans for all sorts of stuff: Study plans, exercise plans, college plans, retirement plans, vacation plans, financial plans, business plans, 3-year plans, 5-year plans, and finally plans to make more plans. Don’t get me wrong, plans are good. I believe planning is a way for us to place value on our daily sojourn. While plans are good, they are oftentimes impossible to execute as predetermined. A great plan should always include plenty of room for pivoting.

Pivoting almost always pushes us towards the events in life that are most memorable.

Pivoting requires three things:

Be anchored in who you are. Without an anchor, you will become part of somebody else’s plan.

Know where you are going. This is a life direction that is broad and exciting.

Be confident saying that you have no idea how you are going to get where you want to go.   Get comfortable in a world of uncertainty.

Enjoy the Sudden Changes,

Matt Davenport

C.E.O.

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GOT PURPOSE?

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Life is pretty simple. It becomes more complex as we age but for the most part, we just want to be happy. Happiness is a fickle emotion that is impossible to bottle up or buy. Disneyland has apparently cornered the market as the happiest place on earth. Unfortunately, this bastion of happiness has been closed down for 6 months. This makes me wonder where the second happiest place on earth has been all these years and why are they not touting their new number 1 status?

Happiness has been and always will be ruthlessly unpredictable and undeniably disloyal. Happiness is a puzzle and it is made up of several pieces. Here are a few:

– Be difficult to offend

– Discover a place of belonging (Big Piece)

– Find fulfillment regardless of the task

– Dedicate your life to helping others

– Understand your purpose (Biggest Piece)

These are a few of the corner pieces that are crucial for assembling the happiness puzzle. Most people want to skip the first four and discover their life calling listening to a podcast. We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty, and the pursuit of Happiness. The Declaration of Independence calls it a pursuit of happiness because that’s what it is – a pursuit.

As your Chief Encouragement Officer, I would urge you to survey your puzzle. What pieces are on the board but in the wrong place? What pieces are missing? At the end of the day, happiness and joy are knowing that your activity and production are what you do not who you are. Answering life’s great questions is always a pursuit.

Stay in the game because you will soon find out that you were born for such a time as this.

Have Fun,

Matt Davenport

C.E.O.

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MERCY’S SHORE

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The past 6 months have felt as though the anchors in our lives have been pulled up without notice. We have been collectively drifting while being pounded by waves, rain and wind. Our sails have been torn, our rudder damaged and our maps have been rendered useless by the saltwater. Yet, here you are today. You have not abandoned ship. You have not pulled the plug. You may have thought about waving the white flag, but you didn’t.

Today is a day that we take a deep breath and survey the vast seas around us. Today is a day we count our blessings rather than our curses. Today is the day we celebrate that we are healthy and strong. Today is the day we lift our heads, put on a clean shirt, and look for the shoreline.

The past 6 months have been the equivalent of dealing with a toddler throwing a never-ending temper tantrum. You have tried every trick in the book and the kid won’t stop. What’s left? 2020 is shaking all things we deemed certain. Here is what we can do.

Take control of what you can control and let go of what you can’t. Even that never-ending tantrum that is 2020 will wear itself out and fall asleep. We are on the precipice of reaching mercy’s shore. When we get there, we will look back at our tattered ship knowing we would never have been pushed to this new place without the storm.

Don’t Quit,

Matt Davenport

C.E.O.

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Who Ordered a Medium?

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Recently, it dawned on me that the size medium was created for people that can’t make a decision. What size drink would you like with that? Hmmm… I don’t want a small because that is not going to be enough and I will never finish a large, so I will take a medium. This conversation goes on in our heads at places like Starbucks but I’m becoming increasingly aware that these non-committal decisions surface in much bigger areas of our lives.  

Forget fast food and shirt sizes. I’m talking about not seeing things clear enough to ask for and work for what we really want. Ordering a medium in life is the equivalent of chartering a boat, setting sail with the hopes of just landing somewhere different. Nothing precise, nowhere particular, just somewhere that is different from the longitude and latitude you currently inhabit.

This line of thinking excuses you from understanding that geography is not your issue. You are the issue. You have not yet set clear parameters on where you are, where you want to go and how you are going to get there.  For the last 6 months, I have written about how the journey takes you places you never intended. That still holds true. However, if you set sail to escape rather than to conquer than you have a whole different type of voyage ahead. One that typically involves more geography change and no real progression.

As your Chief Encouragement Officer, I implore you to let the winds of change fill your sails. Run to the bow of the ship and proudly proclaim… I’ll take a large!

Anchors Away,

Matt Davenport

C.E.O.

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A GOOD CRISIS

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Rahm Emanuel used this expression during a time we now call the great recession of 2008. Long before Emanuel said it, Sir Winston Churchill stated, “Never let a good crisis go to waste.” Churchill uttered these words in the mid-1940s as we were approaching the end of World War ll.

I want to highlight both men because they said these words before the crisis had passed. The quote does an amazing job of creating a juxtaposition on the effects of crisis. In simple terms, never wasting a good crisis means that we are given a choice to allow the events of today to bully us or we choose to engage so that we become a warrior for the promise of tomorrow.

Believe it or not, the crisis that is 2020 will be over before we know it. You still have the opportunity to not let it go to waste. Will you be a victim, or will you allow this year to act as a springboard for the rest of your life? Ironic how 2020 vision is considered perfect. We are all sitting in a chair called September and we are being asked is this better or is this better. Like a good optometrist, the year 2020 has clarified our lives in so many different ways.

Family, friends, health and unity have been moved to the top of the chart and life is coming back into focus. Don’t let a good crisis go to waste. There, I said it, now you can add my name alongside Rahm Emmanuel and Sir Winston Churchill.

Thank you,

Matt Davenport

C.E.O.

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IT TAKES A VILLAGE

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It seems like yesterday, but it wasn’t. 12 years ago, Monarch was born from an experience that I wasn’t really pursuing. After college graduation, I worked at a landscape maintenance company for 9 years. It began with filing papers, later moving into sales, and eventually acting as the general manager for the company.  Truth is, I really wanted to buy that company and develop it into a regional leader. As it turns out, the company was not for sale and it led to my departure in July of 2008.

Starting a landscape consulting company in August of that same year would be the equivalent of opening up a gym in August of 2020. Times were tough, on top of that we had a 3-year-old, a 3-month-old, and a sizeable mortgage without the money to pay for it. Early on in the adventure, my wife and I shared a car because we couldn’t afford 2. We cut tv and any and all of the luxuries that had become so commonplace. The problem was that we couldn’t cut back any further and we needed things like new tires for the minivan. In this instance, both her parents and mine chipped in for a new set. That was one of the many blessings we so undeservingly received during this tenuous time.  

Like Apple, Monarch was started in a garage. I propped up a voting booth around my desk to hold back the kid’s toys on the other side. Often times, I would be in a full sweat typing emails all while hearing our guinea pigs make odd noises from the other side of the cardboard. To put it mildly, working out of the garage for the first 4 years was a character-building opportunity. Looking back, I realize that challenging times are fertile ground for the miraculous. It seems to me that only in desperation do we see things clearly. Trust me, my eyes were clear because I was highly aware of my personal and financial shortcomings. There were times that I was often unsure of how we were going to pay our bills and then out of nowhere new work would come in. It felt like farming, I was solely reliant on hard work, faith, and family.  

The road has not been easy. In fact, the things in our life that have been the most difficult tend to be the most rewarding. Fast-forward to today, we have 5 kids, Monarch has 11 team members and a beautiful office in Dana Point. As your Chief Encouragement Officer, I want to encourage you that my plan was not the right plan. It took a very painful and personal process to push me in a direction that has become a true place of purpose and enjoyment. Even though Apple continues to outperform Monarch, I’m extremely grateful for all of those that have helped me along the way. It takes a village to produce anything worthwhile and lasting.

Thank you,

Matt Davenport

C.E.O.

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Look Up

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Almost 2 years ago, we planted several Coast Live Oak trees in our yard. We live out in a rural area that has enough space to support these native giants. These Oaks are iconic in Southern California because of the shear mass they can achieve over the course of hundreds of years. It’s awe-inspiring to stand under a 100-year oak tree and dream about what it has been witness to.

The climate in SoCal has been extremely hot and humid the past several weeks. The other day, I was on our back patio and found myself staring at these newly planted Oaks as if my glaring would will them to grow faster. I want the shade and privacy now! The irony is that the reason Coast Live Oaks can live so long is in part because they grow at a slower pace to allow for deep roots and even harder wood. If you have ever thrown a piece of oak in a fire you understand how much longer it will burn as compared to that bundle of Pine you bought at the grocery store. Hardwood is developed during hard times.

Right then and there it dawned on me that you can’t rush the type of growth that will last generations. The type of growth we need is slow, deliberate, and often leads us wondering if we are growing at all. Are we prepared to plant for the next generation? Planting for the future means that we don’t get to enjoy the shade during our time. What we do get to enjoy is the process of feeding, watering, and looking after these young trees to ensure that they grow in an environment that is suitable for 100 years, not the next 100 days.

As your Chief Encouragement Officer, I want to encourage you that we are in a season of planting and pruning. The digging, the watering, and the cutting is not terribly enjoyable, but it is all the while a great privilege. Remember to look up and admire the canopy you sit under because a previous generation did the same for you!

Grab a shovel,

Matt Davenport

C.E.O.

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